Are you living Day to Day?

Words of wisdom from a multi-millionaire...

"The very poor live day-to-day, the poor live week-to-week, the middle class live month-to-month, the wealthy live year-to-year and the very wealthy live decade-to-decade" - Kyle Pacetti

Wow. I can’t stop thinking about how true this is. Imagine how this can affect the decisions we make. I've been everywhere from poor to very ‘comfortable’… I can attest to this. When money is tight you can’t even see beyond the week or the month and you make decisions accordingly. When things are going very well then you can plan out a year in advance. I would love to get to the point where I can plan out decades in advance.

I started to really think about this in terms of mindset and ethics. Think of someone who is very poor and living day-to-day. If someone struggles to get through the day and someone leaves a $20 bill unattended on the table do they take it? I’m sure we all know someone who would. I suspect they would have a way to justify to themselves as well… Perhaps saying that if the roles were reversed, the other person would do the same. Maybe they would justify by saying they need it more. On the other hand, what if this person were wealthy? Would they take it? I highly doubt it…

There was another successful speaker that spoke of the fact that she gets to change lives for a living. The money is really just a bonus. I totally understand. I believe that we all need to make a living and so why not earn your living by doing something with the purpose and intention of helping others. However, at the same time I looked around the room and saw that some people were rolling their eyes.

Why is it that some people think that it’s all about the money?

I believe that our current circumstances shape how we perceive the intent of other people. If things are rough in your life and someone approaches you with a way to help you that has a dollar figure attached to it, you might immediately become skeptical and defensive. What’s more is that you don’t have to be homeless to be in a bad situation. Maybe there is some uncertainty in your job… any time fear creeps in you will potentially react in a negative way to people who are trying to help.

Bottom line is that, it is okay to be skeptical. There are certainly people out there trying to scam you.  However, there are also so many people out there who want to help you. Just learn to ask the right questions. It is important to find out what the "win-win" situation is. If you can be clear on what each of you gain from the deal then you can make a better decision on whether you should move forward.

The ties that bind

Imagine when you meet someone for the first time, there is a small elastic band that attaches you to them. Each time you meet the person again it gets thicker. The more experiences and the deeper the “connection” between the two of you, the stronger the elastic band gets. As we go through life, there are some people that become very close, some not at all.

Now, imagine we are all magnets. The choices we make have consequences that pull fortune to us… good or bad. If one of the people that we are connected to attracts good fortune, we often get to experience it with them…same with bad fortune.

Think of the people in your life that “pull” you through bad times. Now think of the people that you are pulling... at times you may even carry them on your back. Have you ever had someone that was such a drag on your energy that you felt physically tired after a conversation with them? Have you ever broken the link with one of these people? It’s like the elastic snaps under the strain. It seems that after the elastic breaks, the positive person shoots into good fortune and the one who was dragging often goes into a fit of despair.

I looked up what happens when you put two magnets together. When two magnets are put together they will attract each other and form a combined force.

When two positive people get together they combine their energy and are able to attract even more good fortune. Two negatives do the same to attract bad fortune. It is important to be careful who you connect with…However, you can use the elastics to pull each other through. Thoughts become actions and people tend to think about positive things when they are surrounded by positive people. The key is to be more consistent with your positive thoughts and actions than the other person is with their negative thoughts and actions. 

The choices we make are often due to the circumstances that we find ourselves in… Although, circumstances are often due to the choices we've already made. It depends on whether most of our decisions are made out of love and abundance or out of fear and lack. I understand that sometimes fear is the right choice. When a tiger comes after you, love is not the best option. However, I've noticed that most people make “fear” based decisions like “I'm scared I won’t be good enough” or “lack” based decisions like “I don’t have what it takes”. It is important to make decisions like “I'm going to try my best and learn from my mistakes” and “how can I find the resources I need to succeed?”.

The best way to achieve a goal is to find someone who has already done it and do what they do. You have to keep in mind that successful people are often very in tune with the energy you bring to the table. If you are not willing to accept their guidance you will likely not remain their friend for long. If you can be open to letting them “pull” you by taking action on the advice that they give then you will start to see success. Then you can keep the positive energy flowing by paying it forward and helping someone else.